Happy Mother’s Day! I am so grateful to be celebrating today as a mommy myself, something I wasn’t sure would happen. As I thought about what I wanted to share with you on this special day I decided Hartlan’s birth story was perfect! I have been wanting to share my most prized photos with you by Debzfotography anyway! Don’t worry, I won’t be sharing all the details 😉
It all started on Monday, November 27, 2017. I woke up early and full of energy, which hadn’t happened in quite some time. I decided I was going to make Kyle breakfast for when he got home. He got home about 8:00 a.m. During our breakfast I mentioned to him several times that today might be the day, I just felt different! After finishing breakfast he went to bed as normal and I took a nap on the couch. I woke up around 10:00 a.m. and decided to hop in the shower. Before getting in I realized I may have been leaking fluid, but I wasn’t quite sure. (FYI – When everyone says “Oh you’ll know when you go into labor” that’s not true for everyone!) I went ahead and showered, by the time I got done I was pretty sure we at least needed to go to the hospital to get checked out. I woke Kyle up at 11:00 a.m. and I’ve never seen him jump out of bed so fast! We both just kept looking at each other in pure excitement as we loaded the car with Hartlan’s bags.
At 11:30 a.m. I was admitted into observation and dilated to 4cm. We let all of our family know, and they patiently waited for the call to come on over!!! During observation they checked and didn’t think I was actually leaking fluid, but they couldn’t be sure. We walked those hospital halls for several hours. My best friend had just had her baby two days before so we walked on over to visit her!
Somehow I was one of those rare people who didn’t feel contractions at the beginning, no complaints here, so we watched them on the monitor when we weren’t walking the halls. By 6:15 p.m. I was dilated to 5cm, and more effaced. They decided to keep me, and we excitedly called in the grandparents! I think they were all there by 7:00 p.m. they were so excited!
Honestly, this was one of the best nights of my life spending it with family all not so patiently waiting to meet our girl. Around midnight all our family headed to the waiting room to get some rest, and Kyle and I took a little snooze. My poor man was going on two hours of sleep in the past 30 some odd hours.
At 7:45 a.m. Dr. Gates come to check me. I was dilated to 6cm and he broke my water. (FYI – no one had prepared me for that! I kept saying “It won’t stop! How is there so much?”)
Shortly after that I started to feel the contractions. I had a death grip on the bed rail, and the only thing that helped a little was Kyle rubbing and putting pressure on my back. At 11:30 a.m. they checked me and I was dilated to 8cm, and I was way ready for the epidural!
I had told my doctor from the start that I most definitely wanted an epidural! I wasn’t scared of it at all, but it did hit me when everyone had to clear the room. The thought of having to sit completely still began to scare me. Thankfully I had the sweetest nurse ever! She let me push against her, and I sang “Peace, Peace, Wonderful Peace, Peace that passes all understanding…” over and over again under my breathe.
At 3:00 p.m. I started pushing! Pushing with an epidural is one of the oddest things I have ever experienced. However, I had the best support! Kyle, my mom, Deb, and my nurse were seriously the best. At 5:00 p.m. Dr. Gates arrived and gave me two options. 1. Use suction or 2. Go to C-Section. I really didn’t want to do either. I asked to push for 15 more minutes, however, around five minutes in I hit “the wall” as they told me. I was exhausted physically, emotionally, and mentally.
Hartlan’s was so close so we decided to try suction. We did the maximum attempts that Dr. Gates was comfortable with but no luck. (Let me just say that when the suction comes off it is terrifying!)
She was so close that he wanted me to push some more, and boy was I trying my hardest. After several rounds he let me know that this was my last chance push before emergency C-Section. I pushed with everything in me, but I know that’s not what got her out. My husband, mom, and Deb were praying. I mean really praying. Even the nurses. (Bawling my eyes out thinking of it as I write this.)
Finally, at 5:33 p.m. on Tuesday, November 28, 2017 our Hartlan Jo made her appearance. She was and is everything we could ever want. In shock we all quickly realized why the birth was such a struggle. She was 8lb 14oz and was facing up and twisted around, but most importantly she was here!
Kyle and I took advantage of the golden hour, and enjoyed meeting our baby girl just the two of us. However, it did turn into more like two hours due to my hemorrhaging, so our family was so ready to meet her!
Then we got to introduce our amazing parents to Miss Hartlan, and their reactions mean everything to me!
I honestly could never thank the nursing staff and Dr. Gates enough for their unbelievable support! The whole experience was great! Honestly, I would rather go through that whole experience again rather than the recovery experience, now that was rough!!! Thinking back the only thing I would change is using the suction, I would opt for C-Section knowing what I know now. Simply because I believe the suction caused Hartlan a more traumatic birth and first few months, and her poor little head looked so painful. I know God had it all planned out just as He wanted though, and our girl is here and that’s all that matters!
We got to take her home on Thursday, November 30th!
I really hope that these photos will make you want to have your child’s birth photographed. Debzfotography took over 500 photos and every single one means the world to me! I also, more importantly, hope that those of you who are reading this wondering if you will ever be a mom know that with God all things are possible. He is a miracle worker! He is for you! He loves you!
Happy Mother’s Day,